Conversation with a Transgender

Someone close to me has a relative that is a transgender. He is a male that transitioned into a female. I knew him before he became a she. He knows I write, and I'm analytical. When I attempted to start a conversation with the stereotypical "sure has been cold lately," he said that if I wanted to ask questions about his transition, I could (this was the first time I'd seen him in years).

As my long time readers know (perhaps some of you became readers because of it), I wrote a rather popular, yet controversial piece titled, The Trans/Sociopath Overlap back in 2017. In this piece, I theorized that there was a large overlap between transgenderism and sociopathy, based on my research. At that time there were 1.4 million that identified as transgender in the USA. 

In the paper, I made a rather simple prediction:

The following prediction almost seems to easy: Five years from now, at least 2.8 million people will identify as “transgender.” But will there really be that many more people held hostage in the opposite sex's body? Or will the vast majority be sociopaths disguised as “transtrenders” doing their part to unweave the moral fabric of society for their “misery seeks company” pleasures? Doesn't it seem as if homosexuals and sociopaths are the happiest when they make others unhappy? All in the name of love and rainbows, of course.

Currently there are 3 million transgenders in the US (1.14% of the population). Like I said, it was an easy prediction to make. Just like I think it's really easy to predict that number will likely be around 6 million in 2030. 

Sexuality is fluid, and people are sheeple. 

If you haven't read the paper, check it out. Whether you agree or disagree, I think it's an interesting read. 

Anyway, the transgender person I spoke with was aware of my theory. The last time I had seen him was around the time I wrote it, and I was reading a lot of books on sociopaths at that time. He and I weren't close, but he was close to someone I was close with. He disappeared for several years, and when he reemerged, he was a woman. 

I have no interest in passing judgement on him, but rather the "how?" and "why?". I wanted to psychoanalyze him for the sake of understanding the mindset, as opposed to stereotyping or assuming.

 The following is the Q&A we had. I'll refer to me as "M" and to the transgender as "T."

M - When did you start feeling like you were a woman?

T - Probably when I was a teenager, about the time I went through puberty. 

M - Although I wasn't around you a lot, I remember you as a kid and you never gave off feminine vibes. You were athletic and what I perceived as masculine. Did you just hide it well?

T - Yes. I was pretty small for a man, so I always felt emasculated to some degree. I never felt like I measured up to "real men." After college I joined the military and no matter how hard I tried, I could never be as strong, fast, tall, big or whatever as the masculine men I was surrounded by. After years of feeling like less of a man, I began to realize that I was actually a woman trapped in man's body, and all those years I felt emasculated was because I wasn't masculine, I was feminine. Once I embraced that I wasn't really a man, and that being a man was just a social construct that society had pushed on me, I became liberated. All I had to do was match the outside with the inside.

M - Not all men are "macho" men. Do you think you imposed unrealistic expectations upon your masculinity, and ultimately failed expectations demoralized your spirit? Or do you think it was just as simple as you were actually a woman trapped in a man's body, as you stated?

T - I think I was born a woman with a penis. A man's masculinity is entirely associated with his penis. That's what makes a man a man, right? So, the essence of a man comes down to a biological protrusion of a few inches of flesh in the center of his body that is used for urination and procreation. Being a woman is a state of mind. It took a long time for me to realize that, but once I accepted that I really am a woman, my life has been amazing. When I was pretending to be a man, I was always depressed. I always felt inadequate. I constantly tried to measure up to other men and failed. Not because I'm a failure, but because I'm a woman. Women aren't men. 

M - So you were only a man because society said you were a man, thus they actually misgendered you?

T - Exactly! Society didn't even know me, yet they labeled me, which applied expectations to my existence. That's not fair for anyone. It's like putting Fruit Loops in a Raisin Bran box. The outside doesn't match the inside. So when people see the box, they automatically just assume what's inside. 

M - Do you think that society should eliminate gender assignment at birth?

T - Absolutely! 100%! I wasted 25 years of my life trying to be what society said I was. 

M - How do you think society should address gender assignment?

T - They shouldn't. It's just like race or anything else, it's a social construct. When people realize who and what they are, then they claim that. Why put a timetable on it? Why put labels on people? People are more than a label. And before you ask, labels come with expectations. That's what's wrong with being labeled. Or more precisely, being mislabeled. There is nothing wrong with being labeled correctly, I suppose. But for those who get mislabeled, it sucks. 

M - I know you've read my paper, do you feel like gender identity is a role that people play?

T - No. I'm a woman. I'm not pretending to be a woman, I really am a woman. Your paper is trash. I'm not a sociopath, I have empathy. Sociopaths are usually white men. 

M- Interesting. I wasn't aware of that. I'm curious, are you homosexual?

T - No, I only date men. 

M - Finally, how do you feel about my theory that homosexuality and transgenderism is a state-sponsored eugenics psyop program? When you eliminate morality from the argument, you're left with sterility. 

T - That doesn't even make any sense. I could have kids if I wanted to, but why would I want to bring children into this messed up world? Humans are destroying the planet anyway. White supremacists have colonialized the planet and harnessed all the resources for profits and power, all off the backs of black people. That's why it's so important for people like you to understand that black lives matter!

M- Thanks for allowing me to ask you questions. 

I think this is a rather interesting look into the mindset of a transgender person. 

I actually agree with some of the stuff, from a causative sense. I do think that men who don't measure up to what they deem as "masculine" can be grinded down over the years if they feel inadequate. And I also agree that failed expectations are demoralizing. 

The causation from the female -> male is the same. You have women who aren't pretty enough, or whatever inadequacy they feel, and just reject that role and become the antagonist. 

As I did in my thesis, I'll pose the question again: If the transgender box hadn't been socially engineered, would there be transgenders? 

God bless.